Daddy, my first love- I never thought this day would come so soon. Although death is inevitable, we often think we have enough time. As soon as I heard of your passing, I started to think, what was the last thing I said to you? When did we have our last laugh together? Did I give you a hug? Did I do enough? When it’s all said and done, I know you always taught us to not question God. Everything happens exactly when it is supposed to happen. When asked to write this tribute, I thought how could I write a few paragraphs on the many lifelong lessons you exemplified. What I’ve come to realize is that it really isn’t about how long you lived, it is how well. I mean, even Jesus died in his 30’s. If there’s anything my father taught me, it is what it means to love. Love is sacrificial, love is forgiving, love is selfless. I remember every night as he would get ready for his night shift, he’d say to us “Eka iwe yin o, so eni she iru ise ti awan she yi.”- translated “Focus on your education so you don’t have to...
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Daddy, my first love- I never thought this day would come so soon. Although death is inevitable, we often think we have enough time. As soon as I heard of your passing, I started to think, what was the last thing I said to you? When did we have our last laugh together? Did I give you a hug? Did I do enough? When it’s all said and done, I know you always taught us to not question God. Everything happens exactly when it is supposed to happen.
When asked to write this tribute, I thought how could I write a few paragraphs on the many lifelong lessons you exemplified. What I’ve come to realize is that it really isn’t about how long you lived, it is how well. I mean, even Jesus died in his 30’s. If there’s anything my father taught me, it is what it means to love. Love is sacrificial, love is forgiving, love is selfless. I remember every night as he would get ready for his night shift, he’d say to us “Eka iwe yin o, so eni she iru ise ti awan she yi.”- translated “Focus on your education so you don’t have to work as hard as I am”. Although we would all laugh it off, deep down I knew Daddy only wanted better for us.
I remember when I graduated high school in 2011, my father pulled a double shift so he missed the actual ceremony. To be quite honest, I was not upset because my Dad always joked that high school graduation was not an accomplishment and to stay focused on the real deal. Although he missed that ceremony, I will never forget the moment when he came home from his shift, he got all dressed up in his Nigerian native and asked me to grab my cap and gown so we could take pictures outside the house. With pajamas under my gown, we stepped out and did our thing, I will never forget that infectious and proud smile.
If you can’t tell yet, my dad was a workaholic. While working 3 jobs at one point, he was also running his personal car business both here and in Nigeria. I remember when I started college and had my out of pocket cost to pay, my father would go into the room and write up a check, I would look at the check and ask how? From where? Then it would all make sense to me, all those shifts and overtime was for this moment. He wanted to be that father who “sent his children to school” with as little loan as possible. For that, I am grateful.
What I will miss most about my father is his sense of humor. As mentioned in his biography, Daddy was a professor in Nigeria so it is second nature for him to teach and educate. I remember often times during our morning devotion, if anyone spoke improperly, daddy would actually interrupt the prayer to correct him/her and thought nothing of it. I will surely miss your lessons.
I am so fortunate to have had a father who not only was present in my life but set the utmost example of what it meant to be a husband, a father and friend. So many weekends, I would wake up to the sound of Eji Ewuro and my parents laughing and enjoying each other’s presence. I always knew that was the kind of love I wanted. A home where the laughter and love never ceased.
Daddy, I know you are in a better place. The pain has ended. No more trembling, no more falls, no more anxiety about the unknown. God has called you to His perfect home. Your memories continue to live in our hearts. Your legacy lives on Daddy. We love and miss you dearly. <3